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Table of Contents
Excerpt from Chapter One
"I Think It Moved"
Article by Steven Phillipson, PhD
regarding relationship substantiation
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Stuck in a Doorway
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has threads regarding Relationship OCD
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has threads regarding ROCD
National Institute of Mental Health: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Sleeping with ROCD
Power for the Co-Sufferers of
By D. M. Kay
Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, otherwise known as "ROCD" or
"Relationship OCD", is an unofficial term for a form of
obsessive-compulsive disorder that is defined by the behavior of
In relationships, ROCD appears
through the behavior of the sufferer's cyclic indecision regarding whether he
or she is with the right partner, or questioning whether love is present.
Partners are often subject to several difficult or painful circumstances. They may hear that they are not loved, that certain features or perceived flaws prevent the ROCD sufferer from being able to love them, and other hurtful declarations. In common cases,either break-ups occur often in one relationship, or the sufferer has experienced repeated failed relationships.
Unfortunately, since this problem is often overlooked or undetected in relationships, Relationship OCD remains untreated. It likely occurs in many more cases than reported and affected relationships fail under the assumption that partners are incompatible. This is rarely the case, however ROCD causes the sufferer to believe that because the partner does not fit a certain profile, the partner must not be compatible or worthy of remaining in the relationship. This
"profile" is usually made up of minute details and idealistic standards that are abnormal and irrational.
Partners this kind of relationship will experience rejection for reasons that seem ridiculous,causing much confusion, hurt feelings, and, sometimes, devastation. The
unfortunate outcome for many ROCD relationships is separation, either because
the sufferer successfully ended the relationship, or the partner leaves because
of the abuse.
In cases where ROCD is identified, it is usually because the partner senses something is not right and researches behaviors, or the sufferer realizes patterns and seeks help. If the sufferer has other obsessive-compulsive disorder traits, Relationship OCD is usually easier to identify. In cases where Relationship OCD is identified,relationships have a better chance of avoiding dissolution. This outcome is dependent on the partner's understanding of ROCD, and the sufferer's choice to recognize and address the problem.
"Sleeping with ROCD: Power for the Co-Sufferer of Relationship OCD" was written with the partners in mind. It helps partners identify ROCD, other OCD traits that may be present,and learn possible causes for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. This may give some comfort in knowing that it isn't the partner, but something completely separate. The book helps partners develop strategies to minimize emotional damage which often occurs in ROCD relationships, as well as what the choices are if the sufferer ends the relationship.
To understand Relationship OCD, one would need to understand the basics of OCD. By the time a reader is finished with this book, he or she will likely know more about Relationship OCD and OCD than was expected. Additionally, partners can learn how to get sufferers to recognize their disorder, which is the first step to getting help.
Exceptionally helpful information is provided, including details of medication and therapy commonly used for OCD cases. Also, alternatives, including over-the-counter supplements,plants (including marijuana), and "alternative" medicine are also discussed in detail. This book is one of very few written about Relationship
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, and even fewer written for partners in these
often painful relationships
Author: D. M. Kay
Publisher: Independent Publisher
Year Published: 2008
List Price: $26.00 (USD)
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